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What are the best practices for referral emails regarding consent and incentives?

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Michael Ko
Co-founder & CEO, Suped
Published 9 Jul 2025
Updated 16 Aug 2025
5 min read
Referral emails can be a powerful channel for growth, leveraging your existing customer base to attract new leads. However, they introduce complexities, particularly concerning email consent and the use of incentives. The core challenge lies in balancing the desire for viral growth with the stringent requirements of anti-spam laws and maintaining a strong sender reputation.
Navigating this grey area requires careful consideration of how consent is obtained for the referred recipient and how incentives are structured for both the referrer and the referred. My goal is to outline best practices that help ensure your referral email campaigns are effective and compliant.
Consent is the cornerstone of all ethical and compliant email marketing. When it comes to referral emails, the situation becomes nuanced because the recipient has not directly opted into your mailing list. Generally, you cannot send marketing emails to someone based on a referral without their explicit consent, as this could violate anti-spam laws like GDPR or CASL.
The distinction often lies between transactional messages and marketing messages. A transactional referral email, like a wedding registry invitation, might be permissible because it facilitates a user-initiated interaction and is not promotional for your service. However, if the email encourages the recipient to sign up for your product or service with a marketing message, it typically requires prior consent. Legal guidance suggests that the initial referral email should be transactional or informational about the referral, not a marketing email unless consent is obtained.
If you send marketing-oriented referral emails without proper consent, you risk not only legal penalties but also damage to your sender reputation. Being perceived as a source of unsolicited mail can lead to your emails being flagged as spam, filtered by ISPs, or even result in your domain ending up on an email blocklist (or blacklist). Understanding how your domain can end up on a blacklist is crucial for avoiding these pitfalls. It's a slippery slope, and protecting your email deliverability is paramount.

Ensuring proper consent in referral programs

  1. Explicit consent: For any marketing-related referral emails, ensure the referred individual explicitly opts in. This is critical for legal compliance and good standing with ISPs. You can learn more about how long email consent lasts and its rules.
  2. User-initiated emails: If users send referral emails directly from your platform (on your behalf), ensure the email clearly states who sent it and that it includes an easy way to opt out of future communications from your service. This is critical for avoiding blocklist issues and maintaining a good reputation.
  3. Clear disclosure: Be transparent about how recipient data will be used. According to referral marketing laws, obtaining informed consent is crucial for compliance.
  4. No content creation by referrer: If your system sends the email, prevent referrers from customizing the message content to avoid abuse, such as adding malicious links or inappropriate text.

Crafting compelling and compliant incentives

Incentives are a primary driver for successful referral programs. They motivate existing customers to spread the word and encourage new prospects to convert. The right incentive can significantly boost participation and engagement. However, choosing the right customer referral incentive is key.
Incentives can take various forms, from discounts and free products to loyalty points or cash bonuses. It is common to offer a two-sided incentive, rewarding both the referrer and the referred friend. This strategy can be particularly powerful in driving new acquisitions by creating value for all parties involved.
Regardless of the type, incentives must be clearly communicated and transparent. Legal and regulatory considerations require that referral marketing be transparent, non-deceptive, and properly disclosed, especially when influencers promote your brand. This helps to avoid potential issues with authorities like the FTC.

Incentive Type

Referrer Reward

Referred Friend Reward

Discount/Credit
Percentage off next purchase
Discount on first purchase
Cash/Gift Card
Monetary reward for successful referral
Gift card upon signup/purchase
Exclusive Access
Early access to new features or products
Access to a premium tier or content

One-sided incentives

This model typically rewards only the referrer. While it might motivate existing customers, it offers no direct benefit to the new customer being referred, potentially reducing conversion rates. It's often a common mistake in referral marketing.
  1. Pros: Simpler to manage, clear benefit for existing loyal customers.
  2. Cons: Lower conversion rate for referred friends, perceived as less generous.

Two-sided incentives

This strategy rewards both the referrer and the referred individual. It creates a win-win scenario, encouraging both sides of the referral relationship to act. This approach is highly recommended for maximizing referral program success, creating a strong framework for your program.
  1. Pros: Higher conversion rates, stronger motivation for both parties, better perceived value.
  2. Cons: Potentially higher cost per acquisition, more complex to track and fulfill.

Designing your referral email flow for deliverability

Beyond consent and incentives, the design and execution of your referral email flow are critical for deliverability and user experience. A compelling subject line and clear call to action are essential for getting emails opened and acted upon. According to MailerLite, crafting an outstanding subject line and preheader is key.
Make the referral process as simple as possible. Minimize the number of steps required for a referral to occur and ensure clear instructions are provided. For example, a single click to share a unique referral link is much more effective than a multi-step form. Simplicity encourages participation and reduces friction. This approach also reduces spam rates and improves consent for your welcome flows.
To prevent abuse, limit the ability of referrers to customize the email content. Pre-written templates with personalized elements like the referrer's name are safer. Also, ensure a robust unsubscribe mechanism is in place, allowing recipients to easily opt out, similar to how email clients generate unsubscribe links. If your emails end up in spam, you should review the causes of deliverability issues.
Example of a clean referral link structureURL
https://yourdomain.com/refer?ref_id=USERID&utm_source=email&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=programname
Monitoring your referral email performance is crucial. Keep an eye on deliverability metrics, including open rates, click-through rates, and bounce rates. High bounce rates or complaints can indicate issues with consent or content, potentially leading to your IP or domain being added to a blocklist (or blacklist). Regular checks help you maintain a healthy sender reputation and avoid common deliverability issues.

Summary

Referral emails are a powerful growth tool, but they demand a careful approach to consent and incentives. Prioritizing explicit consent for marketing communications ensures legal compliance and protects your sender reputation, preventing your emails from going to spam or landing you on a blocklist.
Well-structured, transparent incentives motivate participation without falling afoul of regulatory guidelines. By combining strict consent practices with compelling, compliant incentives and a smooth user experience, you can create a referral program that drives significant growth while maintaining strong email deliverability.

Views from the trenches

Best practices
Clearly distinguish between transactional and marketing referral emails, adhering strictly to consent laws for marketing communications.
Implement a two-sided incentive model to reward both the referrer and the referred, maximizing participation and conversions.
Design the referral process to be as simple as possible, with pre-written, non-customizable email content to prevent misuse.
Ensure easy opt-out options for referred recipients and monitor deliverability metrics to detect and address issues promptly.
Common pitfalls
Sending marketing referral emails without explicit consent for the recipient, leading to legal and deliverability problems.
Offering only one-sided incentives that fail to motivate the referred party, resulting in lower conversion rates.
Allowing referrers to freely customize email content, which opens the door to spam and abusive practices.
Neglecting to monitor email deliverability, leading to your domain being placed on email blacklists or blocklists.
Expert tips
Always include transparent disclosures about referral incentives to comply with advertising regulations and build trust.
Focus on the user experience for both referrers and referred individuals to ensure a seamless and positive interaction.
Regularly review your referral program for compliance with evolving anti-spam laws like CASL or GDPR.
Consider non-monetary incentives such as exclusive access or loyalty points for long-term customer engagement.
Marketer view
Marketer from Email Geeks says they have always taken a black-and-white approach to opt-in, believing no communication should be sent unless someone directly opts in.
2021-07-20 - Email Geeks
Marketer view
Marketer from Email Geeks says they personally would not engage with referral emails due to the high risk involved, though they acknowledge some services rely on them.
2021-07-20 - Email Geeks

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